Tuesday, December 28, 2004

a question of conscience?

Being a girl has its advantages. I would the last one to deny it. Said advantages were more pronounced in India than in the US, but they exist here too, even if to a smaller extent. Right from letting someone help you with the heavy bags you are carrying while travelling, waiting till some guy asks if he can help you start your troublesome kinetic, letting the prof do your workshop assignment in FE, and more along those lines. Note that in all these cases, help was provided unasked, but it was taken when offered. Show me one dainty little thing who hasnt made use of this privilege and i will show you a person who lets opportunities go waste.
Never have I participated in or endorsed 'exploitation' of the opposite sex by going too far. Or maybe so I think ;-) In plenty cases I remember denying unasked help as I thought it crossed a line. I also remember a guy later accusing me of being too proud to accept help!
So where to draw the line? Where does passive acceptance end and dependence start? Or where does the bitch take over? Who is the bigger loser?


6 Comments:

Blogger s said...

i didnt offer help to any pyt during workshop in FE for they were mostly feminist with battering eyelashes. the line exists at the point when da gal expects ppl to do cos shes a gal or when gal keeps talkin bout feminism but when it comes to huge samsonites its back to the guys.

5:10 AM  
Blogger Me said...

"where to draw the line?"
i say never draw a line :)

9:32 AM  
Blogger Dreamcatcher said...

Thats a tricky one - i tend to look upon it as walking a fine line..considering we are surrounded by MCP's and we get marginalised treatment once in a while its probabaly ok..
i admit ive let ppl carry my bags and yeah like u sed i didnt ask fr the help ..
its a catch 22 situation and i empathise..been there done that and in one very desperate situation had to overstate the entire frailty of being female.

9:38 AM  
Blogger shodZ said...

u have answered ur own question. the line is the one where u dont ask for help. but get offered some bcoZ of the tedious task or whatever

10:01 PM  
Blogger dkjariwala said...

I have seen quite a few girls (1) who exploits the fact that they are girl. And I have hated it the most.

Though, to be honest, if I were to become girl in my next incarnation, I will exploit the guys around me to the fullest! ;)

JD[1]Let me add that I know many more girls who doesn't exploit this fact. :)

2:46 PM  
Blogger Confuzzled said...

Its not that only girls exploit guys.....guys do too....
Just that when girls do, its more evident....
However, when time needs.....not bad to exloit the guys....:))

10:36 PM  

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